I think it takes courage to come clean...it's a difficult thing to do, but so very liberating. The honest person doesn't have to work hard to avoid giving out contradictory details or continually backtrack and embellish to keep up with a lie.

I certainly feel sympathy for you as you struggle with your condition (I do believe its a condition, and I have known pathological liars personally) and your compulsion to lie and make things up, even to your own detriment (common with pathological liars...they lie even when the truth would better serve them).

It will take time to earn back your fellow bloggers' trust...because you have lied and been found out, even now the things you've written in this blog may be suspect. However, as time goes on, it will be apparent whether on not you are telling the truth, and if you continue down the path of honesty, you will gain credibility.

I have no ill feelings toward you, Lucas. I've always found you to be a nice, likable person. I was a bit disgusted by your lies because dishonesty is like nails on a chalk board to me (this is not to imply that I am always 100% honest, because we all struggle with it, but I do attempt to be true in the things I say and do).

If it makes you feel good to create a fantasy blog with a different persona, you should do just that. You can still be "Dr. Bailey" married to the beautiful Jasmine on your blog, so long as you let other know that the people they are reading about and caring about are characters. It could be entertaining. However, masquerading as this character without letting others in on the fact that it's false or only loosely-based on your life is really manipulating them with lies.

Just my thoughts.

I am very encouraged by your confession, and I hope that, at least on JU, you are able to keep your beast at bay...it might even help you in your personal life as well. And just so you know, you don't have to impress anyone with dramatic life events or special titles...your thoughts, your personality, and your life is enough.

Best wishes.

Lucas...JoeUser is an 'on-line' community. No one knows for sure who is real and who isn't. Just be yourself and be a part of it all. Lying will get you no points..no friends or anything else positive. Coming clean like you just did will win you points... from now on...just be yourself.
I won't forgive you as you ask because as far as I'm concerned there is nothing to forgive. This is YOUR blog, so if you lied, it was only to yourself.
I hope you stay here, I enjoy your threads and hope to see many more of them.

thank you both...

I concur with the other two comments. I admire the courage you exhibited in your message by making a clean sweep. Its a difficult process that requires attention to every facet of your personality to fact check yourself and determine who you really are. Its hard, but you can do it.

By the way, I do have advanced degrees in history and we must talk sometime about your specific fields of interest. Take Care.

Takes a lot of inner strength to make such a confession. Most people would have just wandered off or started a new account. Someone with that kind of will should feelgood enough about themselves to not need to make stuff up.

btw, I really am God Emporer of Mars, and don't let LW or anyone else tell you differently. They doubt out of fear and jealousy, but soon they'll know. Mmm, yes soon...

Dude....whilst your confession is warranted and your apology accepted, I'm still concerned by your assertion that you're a pathological liar.  Are you making that up too?

Anyhoo....thank you for having the cohones to admit you were wrong.

OMG!!!!
Karen said the 'C' word

lucas, as soon as I become "perfect" then I shall cast stones, until then I like you and shit happens, the only way to break the lie habit , is to be rigorously honest, the best thing about honesty is you never have to remember what you said.

elie aka notperfectman

dhamra...I am....

It's good to see you coming clean. I was following the drama that was happening but didnt want to comment because i probably would've said something that i could be regretting later (now actually! since you've apologized).

So welcome back to JU and lets just take it easy

btw, I really am God Emporer of Mars, and don't let LW or anyone else tell you differently. They doubt out of fear and jealousy, but soon they'll know. Mmm, yes soon...

I just saw War of the Worlds this past weekend, and I can tell you unequivocally, that you ARE NOT the God Emperor of Mars!  You got too many digits!

As for your decpetion Lucas, It never bothered me.  JU is like a role playing game.  You can be whatever and whomever you want.  It matters not to me.  But I agree that it took a lot of courage to say what you did.

It's been said that true confession is good for the soul. Hopefully yours did you some good and it does take a "big" person to admit when he's done something wrong.

lucas, don't know you that well, but you have for the most part been well mannered here on JU...maybe you couldn't help lie because of your condition, but I do hope you can get help as far as that is concerned. Hopefully, you can dig down deep inside yourself to let the real you out...And if you manage to, maybe you can share that real you with the rest of us...best wishes!

Wait a minute... If Bailey is a pathological liar, then why should we believe that he isn't a doctor?

dhamra...I am....

How the hell am I supposed to believe that following your assertion that you're a pathological liar? For all I know that could be a lie too.

To be frank, Lucas, I'm probably never going to believe another word you say.