8 Questions for Gays/Lesbians,etc...

Published on September 6, 2005 By ----- In Misc

These are some questions for all peoples here at JU that prefer the same sex. Its to try and understand, from your words/point of view. As i have been chastisized for some harsh comments.

1. At what age did you determine your sexual preference?

2. How did this come about?

3. How long did it take you to "come out" after your Revelation?

4. How did your friends and family react?

5. Do you feel that homosexuals are legitimately/illegally persecuted in the U.S.?

6. Have you experienced persecution?

7. Do you feel that the attitude of the country is shifting (or will shift with time) in your favor?

8. How do you feel when you hear some Christians tell you homosexuality is wrong and is a sin?

Comments (Page 2)

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on Sep 07, 2005

And let me pre-empt all you faggots (straight and gay) who are going to bring up Hitler at this point - Hitler was the exception that proves the rule

--Hitler was gay?

Lucas, I'm going to take you on face value here and tell you that Phoenixboi might be a good person to talk to about this. I'm always available to chat as well (dharmagirl69@gmail.com or my yahoo IM ID is dharmagirl69), but I'm not gay so I might not be of much help. Like I said, I'm taking this like you mean it, as are other people....so make sure that you're sincere because this is NOT the kind of subject that you want to fuck around with people's feelings over.

-Thanks for the offer, i may just do that...

and lucas? be sure look up the big words before you respond, heehee.)

-voords? Vee don need no schtinkin vords!

-BTW, thanks for the link dabe...quick question; are you male/female, black/white? from what i have read of yours i don't have a clue, no offense btw...

--EoIC, thanks for answering the questions...I'm learning/understanding...

(As for bashing, it won't be allowed...so lets keep this relatively civil, please...)

-----

on Sep 07, 2005

People, you're both wrong....there, that work? Lets move on...

dabe

on Sep 07, 2005

BTW, thanks for the link dabe...quick question; are you male/female, black/white? from what i have read of yours i don't have a clue, no offense btw...

No offense taken, bailey. I am a 54 year old woman, actually I'll be 55 next month. I am white. I am 5'3". I am divorced, have two grown kids - a 30 y.o. son and a 27 yo daughter, who has a 6 yo son. Yup, I be a grandma, and my grandson is the love of my life.

Anything else you wanna know?

I appreciate your interest in learning about the gay/lesbian issue. I take it you're kind of young, so you have lots of room to learn. Keep an open mind. And, no I do not intend to be patronizing. I just really care very passionately about the issue. I am passionate about a lot of things, as you've probably already noticed.

Myrrander

on Sep 07, 2005

"dr." bailey can unite even the most distant of JU'sers

go away "dr." bailey

we're laughing at you

dabe

on Sep 08, 2005

Aw, come on, myrr show some heart.

-----

on Sep 08, 2005

"dr." bailey can unite even the most distant of JU'sersgo away "dr." baileywe're laughing at you

--Well Myrr, then i'm laughing with you. It's said that he who laughs last, laughs best...(i think) And, its said that those who don't laugh at themselves go nuts...(or something like that)

--Yes, i have indeed noticed that...Are you bi/les? Why are you so passionate?

-----

on Sep 08, 2005

Hmmm, just thought of something...

my mum is kinda like you, 57, divorced, married 5 times, 3 kids, 2 grandchildren (1 on the way)..........

*twilight zone theme song*

Oh, Myrr, Its Mr. Anti-Doctor to you...

ParaTed2k

on Sep 08, 2005

In the whole "wondering" part of what you are going through right now, and in light of the "protecting" side issue, I have a story (imagine that! ;~D) that seems appropriate... might even help...

I knew a kid in high school who started asking questions much like you asked here. It quickly spread amongst those of us who would rather hang out in the parking lot than go to class, that he was gay.

As you can imagine, he was met with both "the cold shoulder" by one segment and "encouragement to come out of the closet" by yet another part of the group.

It turned out that he had a pretty homo erotic dream one night, being a normal teen with little idea about what to make of such a thing, it made him wonder if he was gay. It turned out that, after looking around, and some self discovery, no he wasn't gay...

To me the reaction from the kids in the "parking lot gang" (as we were called, but we were far from a "gang") was as interesting as seeing what he had gone through while learning about himself. Some of the kids who were cold to him, all of the sudden treated him like their best buddy... even closer than before... Some of those who were so "encouraging" of him coming out accused him of living a lie and stifling his true self.

Apparently niether truly accepted him... too bad, he's a great person. Not sure what became of him though.

Anyway, just thought that might fit into the discussion.

Texas Wahine

on Sep 08, 2005

I think everyone's at least a little bit gay. Seriously.

dabe

on Sep 08, 2005

--Yes, i have indeed noticed that...Are you bi/les? Why are you so passionate?

I'm a humanist. I am also a firm believer in live and let live. I believe that repukes should not have any say in how people choose to live thier lives, absent committing any crimes (murder, theft, fleecing of America, lying into a war, depraved indifference to human life, etc.).

I have been to gay weddings, and they were beautiful events, wherein two people who love eachother committed their lives to eachother. what the fuck is so wrong with that? Nothing. (I answered my own question) I've know people my entire life who have lived together in gay relationships, the oldest couple lasting over 50 years, and still going strong. The repukes have no heart and no soul if they cannot condone love like that. If they cannot condone it, then don't enter into a relationship like that. Live and let live. It's no skin off their backs. And, it's that simple.

I've posted this before, but even though I know there are some republicans who support gays rights, the repuke party does everything in its power to prevent gay rights. So, as a party platform, I blame repukes. And if you cannot accept a platform of "live and let live", then why the hell align yourself with a political party that actively attempts to squash human rights? I don't get it.

No, I am not gay/lesbian.

Champas Socialist

on Sep 08, 2005

I would have thought the use of etc. actually served a very important purpose. Firstly, to include the bisexual label, but also to allow anyone who might not use the 3 most commonly used labels, but might see things from a more postmodernist perspective for instance. If gender is a social construct, then "heterosexual", "homosexual" and "bisexual" loses its meaning. Yet these people might still be attracted to people described by modernists as "male" or "female".

It's good to see you're getting heaps of genuine responses and that everyone's talking about the issue you raised. Gotta love JU!

Phoenixboi

on Sep 08, 2005

Hey Lucas...

1. At what age did you determine your sexual preference?

Firstly I dont think I determined my sexual preference, I was born this way.. so when did I realise it?... Well when I was 7.

2. How did this come about?

I just knew I was different I wasnt attracted to girls and I got boners thinking about guys.

3. How long did it take you to "come out" after your Revelation?

Come out.. hmm well the only people I never really came out to was my parents .. until they found out.

4. How did your friends and family react?

friends didnt care.. I was still me.. family most have been good about it, parents well they tend to dismiss it.

5. Do you feel that homosexuals are legitimately/illegally persecuted in the U.S.?

Dunno I dont live there... and I think I should refrain from saying anything about the US after recent happenings..

6. Have you experienced persecution?

Yes and I had their ass in court. (pardon the pun)

. Do you feel that the attitude of the country is shifting (or will shift with time) in your favor?

Depends which country your talking about.. here well things go backwards and forwards depending on whos in power. Overall I think things are much better now than in the past.

8. How do you feel when you hear some Christians tell you homosexuality is wrong and is a sin?

I tell them to get a life. So is eating oysters.

Phoenixboi

on Sep 08, 2005

BTW..lucas I dont think your gay.

dharmagrl

on Sep 08, 2005

I have been to gay weddings, and they were beautiful events, wherein two people who love eachother committed their lives to eachother. what the fuck is so wrong with that? Nothing

I agree.

The people that I was going to adopt Beau from are a same sex couple. They've been together 25 years...if anything they're more committed than some traditional couples.

I could care less what someone's sexual preference is.

Lucas, I don't think that you're gay either. I think that you're doing what every normal boy your age does...you're questioning your own sexuality and trying to figure out where you fit in on the grand scale of things.
Nothing wrong with that.

KarmaGirl

on Sep 08, 2005

go away "dr." bailey

we're laughing at you

That deserves a troll or two......why go to *his* blog if you don't want to read what he writes?

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